Setting a boundary for your child is one thing, but setting a boundary for your mother-in-law? Yikes! When I talk with women on the phone about having to set boundaries I can almost feel them cringe. It doesn’t seem right to have to set boundaries with an adult. Adults are supposed to know the basic rules and social norms. Most do, but unfortunately there are some adults who either don’t know the rules and norms or, as is the case most of the time, choose to ignore them. And these particular adults have learned that if they ignore what most of us hold sacred – the basic rules and social norms that we live by – they will get their way 98% of the time. (more…)
Are You Uncomfortable Setting Boundaries for Your Mother-In-Law?July 14, 2014
What Is Going On With Your Husband? It May Surprise You!May 5, 2014
In the last two blogs – Part 1 & Part 2 – Is Your Son Pulling Away? Reasons He May be Doing So – I talked about why sons pull away from their family of origin (mothers, particularly) other than because his wife wants him to do so. This particular blog addresses the husband’s role in relation to his wife and his mother. I will focus on what may be going on with him so you can see his actions for what they are, instead of what you fear they might be. (more…)
Is Your Son Pulling Away? Reasons He May Be Doing So – Part 2April 8, 2014
In the last blog post I wrote about Janice and her son Peter. Janice was struggling with the changes in Peter’s behavior toward her. She was convinced that these changes were the result of Peter’s wife. She was sure her daughter-in-law set these changes in motion because she didn’t want him talking to her.
Is this really what is going on? It could be. This does happen. A daughter-in-law can set into motion such marital contention with his mother at the core that it is easier for him to pull completely away from his family just to make peace at home. However, sometimes what you see on the surface – his pulling away – is not about this at all, and it is important to recognize that there are other ways to interpret a son’s changes.
Introduction by Deanna
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