Does it feel like you're "biting your tongue" more often than not when you're around your DIL?
Does your DIL perceive you so negatively that you are at a loss to know where it comes from and
what to do?
Do you try different things to engage your DIL, to no avail?
Do you feel like your DIL completely misunderstands you?
Do you feel "on edge" around your DIL - like you're not sure what to expect with what she says or
with her actions?
Do you notice that you're not sure how to act when you're around your DIL because she doesn't
really try to engage with you?
Do you feel like your relationship with your son is no longer close?
Does it seem that your DIL wants nothing to do with you - and you have no clue as to why?
Is your DIL polite, and even pleasant, when interacting with you, but makes no real effort to engage
Do you feel like you have to compete with your DIL's family when it comes to seeing your
grandchildren, or even your own son?
Do you have to "gear up" to talk to or be around your DIL?
Are you unsure about how your relationship with your DIL is supposed to be?
Do you find yourself saying, "Why is she acting this way towards me? Or, why is she treating me
Do you start to doubt yourself in ways you never did before when you're around your DIL?
Do you feel your DIL makes no real effort to interact with you directly - the interactions seem to be
through your son?
Does it feel like you can't talk to your son the way you used to?
Do you notice your son pulling further away from all the family - not just you?
Do you try to look comfortable, but are not relaxed around your DIL?
Do you feel "at a loss" with what's going on between you and your DIL?
Does it seem that your DIL has no need for any type of family connection - and is perfectly "OK"
Do you feel your DIL is not really interested in improving the relationship between the two of you?
Does your attempt to "help" seem to get rejected by your DIL more often than not?
Do you notice that your DIL seems to have a different way of looking at things than everyone else
you know - and it seem impossible to figure out how she perceives what she does?
Are you confused as to why your DIL has no interest in engaging with you?
Do you find yourself being tentative around your DIL - not sure how to act or how she'll react to
Do you find that your son seems to make a lot of excuses for your DIL?
Do you feel your DIL makes no effort to "get" you - or even try to "get" you?
Do you find that you really don't take the initiative to interact with your DIL; that you'd rather just
initiate interaction with your son?
Does it feel like the smallest things get blown out of proportion?
Do you sense something is wrong, but can't quite put your finger on it?
Do you view your DIL as OK, yet still don't feel a need to have a close relationship with her?
Have you given up having expectations of your DIL?
Does it feel like your DIL's words say one thing, but her behavior is saying something completely
different - and you can't say a thing out of fear of _____ ? (fill in the blank)
Does your DIL make excuses to not spend time with you or any of your son's side of the family?
Does it feel like your son is more distant from you than before he married?