|Do you hear that "parental" tone from your MIL that just makes you want to scream?
|When it comes to your MIL, does she always make it about her, even when it's not?
|Do you feel frustrated with your MIL when you really need something from her and she's "unavailable; yet, when you don't need her she's all over you trying to help?"
|Does your MIL have an "air" about her that seems to reflect that she knows best - even though she may not say anything directly?
|Do you feel like you have to "gear up" just to be around your MIL or to talk to her?
|Do you find you really don't like who your MIL is?
|Does your MIL show up at your house uninvited - with no warning - and just walks right in?
|Do you feel drained after talking or spending any time with your MIL?
|Does it seem like your MIL tries too hard or is just off with how she interacts with you?
|Do you find yourself getting edgy or irritable just knowing you're going to be around your MIL?
|Do you feel like your MIL punishes you in some way when you don't do what she wants?
|Does it feel, at times, awkward when it is just you and your MIL?
|Do you feel like screaming when your MIL acts like she knows your husband better than you do?
|Does your MIL say/act any way she wants, with no concern about how she impacts you?
|Have you given up having expectations of your MIL?
|Do you find yourself feeling hurt, frustrated, or even angry with the way your MIL treats you?
|Do you feel like your MIL gets her way with everyone, which just drives you crazy?
|Do you really have no desire to develop a relationship with your MIL?
|Do you and your husband fight more often the closer it gets to his mother visiting?
|Do you make a point of taking no real initiative to interact with your MIL, letting your husband deal with her if possible?
|Do you get ticked off when your husband defends his mother instead of seeing your point of view?
|Do you find yourself dumbstruck by some of your MIL's behavior?
|Do you find yourself saying, "Why is she trying so hard? It feels intrusive."
|Is your husband just not "getting" why you are so upset with his mom?
|Do you dread the phone ringing when you know it's your MIL? Or, do you check the caller ID before you answer, just in case it might be her?
|Does your husband seem to become mute when you bring up your frustration toward his mother?
|Do you watch your husband go from a man to a "little boy" right before your eyes when he's around his mother?
|Does it seem like your MIL tries to be hurtful toward you?
|Does your husband ignore his mother's behavior most of the time - and seems to not be impacted by her craziness like you are?
|Do you feel it's important for your children to have a relationship with your MIL, even if you don't want one yourself?
|Do you notice that your husband doesn't call his mother back when she leaves messages?
|Do you view your MIL as OK, yet still don't want a close relationship with her?
|Have you also noticed your husband doesn't make much effort to interact with his mother - his mother does all the initiating?